Having realistic sexpectations can mean the difference between a really amazing experience, and a situation that can feel awkward and uncomfortable. Sex is not a bad thing. Here are some of things you could think over to make sure you are ready to have sex for the first time.
Prepare yourself by knowing what to expect. Though all parts of the body are usually in the same spot for most people, they are shaped and sized differently, and people feel different about different ways of touching or moving. Take your time, explore, laugh together and forget awkwardness! It might be weird. It might be awkward. It might seem stupid. Who cares! Talk about sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend before you do it.
Talk about it a lot! We have sex for the first time for so many different reasons. The only reason to have sex is because you really feel ready and prepared for it. Is that the right reason? When we say safe, we mean make sure you are on the pill or have an implant, and that you use a condom.
The pill and implants do nothing to protect you from STIs like Chlamydia, herpes or warts, and more people than you think carry those nasties around in their pants. It might seem obvious, but after-sex hygiene is really important. While STIs are definitely something you want to avoid, probably a more immediate worry is a urinary tract infection UTI. A UTI is a nasty little infection that you can get from spreading bacteria from your vagina or bottom to your urethra where you pee from.
The infection can make it really painful seriously, we mean REALLY painful to pee; make you want to pee allll the time; produce discoloured, cloudy pee; and give you serious cramps. If you feel like you need to wait a while before you give it another crack, then do just that.
Yeah, we know. If you experienced pain when having sex, this is not uncommon but indicates you might need help if it happens every time you are sexually active. The Pelvic Floor muscles can play a factor in sexual function. This is not always simple and getting to the bottom of what is causing the pain is really important. Check out these possible causes of pelvic muscle tension as well as potential influences on your sexual intimacy! Overall, sex is just such a personal thing when it comes to deciding what to do when, and with whom.
Have the sex talk It might be weird. Do it for the right reasons We have sex for the first time for so many different reasons. After sex Clean up It might seem obvious, but after-sex hygiene is really important. Talk about sex again Yeah, we know. Painful sex If you experienced pain when having sex, this is not uncommon but indicates you might need help if it happens every time you are sexually active.